How to choose your husband and future father of your children.
Hello Supermoms and Superwives of Senegal (and beyond)! I'm Aminata and through my writings I offer solutions to help you become the best version of yourself and juggle motherhood, marriage and your career.
Today, I'm sharing my thoughts on choosing the right husband and future father of your children.
If, like me, you want to be a fulfilled wife and mother, you need to be aware of your own value as a woman, which will naturally allow you to be very happy and thrive only in an environment that cares about your well-being and where you feel safe. Your choice of partner will determine your well-being and that of your children.
Immerse yourself in the following belief:
The day a woman realizes her worth is a glorious day.
A woman who takes the time to know herself and celebrate her authenticity gains the power to make a positive difference in the lives of those around her. She loves herself deeply and above all. She knows her boundaries and her principles. She trusts herself and her intuition.
Above all, she knows how to choose wisely the father of her children.
She won't beg for love, she will attract it. And when she finds a mate, it will be a man who celebrates her, appreciates her, consults with her, respects her, loves her, and cherishes her. She will look for a responsible man, both spiritually and financially stable, whose goal will be to make her happy for the rest of her life. She will naturally be loyal to him and cherish him for the rest of her life. He will do the same, for a relationship is not a one-way street..
When two self-aware individuals choose to unite for better or for worse, the children they have together will know what true love is. Through the father's behavior toward the mother and the mother's behavior toward her mate, the child will get a glimpse of what it means to be an exemplary husband and wife. Subconsciously, he or she will later choose a mate based on what he or she has observed over the years.
If a child observes respect, communication, and affection between his or her parents, he or she will tend to behave that way in future relationships and look for those qualities in his or her mate. This is not to say that there will never be disagreements between parents. Mistakes and emotions are human, but parents should set a good example by tactfully resolving their problems. The danger lies in the child's chronic observation of a violation of this love contract through unacceptable behavior without doing anything about it.
For example, if the child sees the mother insulting her partner, and the partner doesn't express his frustration or communicate about it, the child will think it's normal to tolerate the unacceptable as long as you love someone. But respect is one of the sine qua non conditions for a happy couple. If your partner can't show a modicum of respect even before a baby arrives, do you think he or she will change, or that his or her lack of respect will increase with the addition of a new family member?
So ask yourself the right questions before you choose a partner to have a child with. Make sure that this man isn't playing games with you, that he can significantly improve your living conditions, and that he practices the principles of a family leader as well as those of a companion. Uniting with such a man, whether you have children or not, will make you invincible in this world.
BOTTOM LINE: Love yourself enough to make the most important decisions of your life. Choosing a husband is no easy task; it's about choosing a companion "forever"! Take the time to determine your non-negotiable life principles, your beliefs, what you will and won't accept, and then make sure that even your emotions won't break your devotion to those principles. However, never be too proud or a slave to your community not to change your decision if your relationship becomes more than toxic. Taking the time to do this is key.
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